I started a post on self-harm a few months ago, but 1000s of words later, I realised/believed I was rambling on too much with no real conclusion to aim for, so I put it on hold for a while. Therefore, I decided to write a post about something that seems to annoy me recently.
Selfies, (or self-shots,) for those who don't know, (but I'm sure most of you do,) are photos of one's self, usually just the face, but sometimes bodies are included, (preferably with clothes still on, if you're someone who looks like a 14 year-old mother of 3, or if you're someone I believe to have some self-respect).
For me, a picture with just the face on, or a picture where you're just posing with no actual story to the photo, should just be used/shared as a profile picture on a social networking site. Even then, there should be better photos of you to choose from; maybe when you went on holiday, or when you went to a gig.
Photos are meant to capture an important event, a time that you want to remember, a time that you want to share with others. Standing in your mirror in your bathroom, I'm sure, isn't an important event, a time you want to or will remember, so why would you want to share this with others? It isn't a memory, it's a toilet break. These should be kept private.
Sure, people do this (mainly girls; I'm not being sexist, just observant,) possibly to show off a new item of clothing, or a new hair colour, piercing, tattoo, whatever. But we don't need fifteen photos of this event, each with different lyrics from different songs as a caption that are totally unrelated to the fact your hair is now red.
Now, I've covered the "selfies" that annoy me when there are hundreds of them posted, but the ones that really annoy me only take one for me to become annoyed.
The worst sort of photo is where (again, usually a girl) posts a photo of her face, covered in makeup, and there's no difference in that photo than the one she posted yesterday except perhaps the camera-angle. This is annoying as it is when it fills up your news feed, but what really gets on my nerves is, (and I think all guys hate this), when the caption is something to do with how their hair isn't done right on that photo, or an eyelash is slightly crooked, or they just aren't pretty at all.
Diddums.
They clearly just want people to comment on this photo to say that in fact they are pretty, or their hair actually looks amazing on that photo, or that the crooked eyelash isn't really all that crooked.
You could say it's a self-confidence issue, that this girl/these girls feel imperfect and wish to be told they look nice. However, when it's everyday, or when they have a boyfriend, or when everyone knows she's the most self-centred and vain person in all the land, it starts to get a little irritating.
Why?
1. When it's everyday, you're going to get bored of their face to the point where you comment saying "Yes, your eyelash is ridiculously crooked, and by the way, what hair colour were you going for? Poo?" (Said in a childish voice.)
2. When they have a boyfriend, they shouldn't need to put photos on everyday to be told she's good looking by everyone, to get confidence. If she does need to, she is extremely vain, and just wants to be told it by everyone because she already knows/thinks she is, or the boyfriend isn't good at being a boyfriend.
3. If you already think/know you're good looking, you don't need to remind us everyday with a new photo of the same face in the same room. Take a photo of yourself somewhere nice, make the photo actually interesting like a photo ought to be.
The final sort of "selfy" that I hate is where a girl takes the photo from above her face, just to fit her cleavage onto the photo. To me, there're only a few reasons why a girl must do this.
1. Because she thinks a photo including her breasts will help her finally attract that "ever-loving", "romantic" boyfriend she's always complaining she can't find. (And they wonder why all their exes used them for their body.)
2. Because she wants everyone to see her boobs, because she wants to be a pornstar or a prostitute one day.
3. Because she thinks her boobs bring out the colour of her eyes.
Now, don't get me wrong. If a girl takes a nice photo that includes her in a pretty dress that happens to show some cleavage, great, that's lovely; I have nothing against these fleshy milk bringers! But if the girl has gone out of her way to get her cleavage in there, or she's lying down on her front to make them appear bigger, the above 3 reasons are all I can think that she must be thinking.
That's about all.
To Conclude
I like photos that capture happiness, an event of some sort, or a photo that explains something/tells a story. I wouldn't mind a selfy from one person once a month, or maybe once a fortnight maximum, it entertains this person and gives this person some self-confidence. But girls, (and guys!) not every day please! Too much confidence in your body is bad, and if we wanted to see your face that often, we'd arrange to see you in person!
Thanks for reading,
Take care,
Adam 'ARK' Walton
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